Living Life with Lupus
By: Meline Ngo
I’m 40 years old and I am living with lupus for almost 16 years now. First, what is lupus? This is the easiest way that I could explain what lupus is:
Lupus is a chronic autoimmune inflammatory disease that occurs when your body’s immune system attacks your own tissues and organs. It attacks healthy cells and tissues. Autoimmune means your immune system cannot tell the difference between these foreign invaders and your body’s healthy tissues (“auto” means “self”) and creates autoantibody that attack and destroy healthy tissue. These autoantibody cause inflammation, pain, and damage in various parts of the body. Lupus can be difficult to diagnose because its signs and symptoms often mimic those of other ailments. This can damage many parts of the body such as the Joint, Skin, Kidneys, Heart, Lungs, Blood vessels and Brain.
Anyone can get lupus. Lupus affects about 5 in 10,000 people it appears that people with an inherited predisposition for lupus may develop the disease when they come into contact with something in the environment that can trigger lupus. The cause for lupus in most cases, however, is unknown. Some potential triggers include: Sunlight, Exposure to the sun may bring on lupus skin lesions or trigger an internal response in susceptible people. Infections, Having an infection can initiate lupus or cause a relapse in some people. Medications, Lupus can be triggered by certain types of anti-seizure medications, blood pressure medications and antibiotics. People who have drug-induced lupus usually see their symptoms go away when they stop taking the medication. Your sex, it affects 10 times as many women as men. Age. Although lupus affects people of all ages, its most often diagnosed between the ages of 15 and 40.
No two cases of lupus are exactly alike.
Signs and symptoms may come on suddenly or develop slowly, may be mild or severe, and may be temporary or permanent. Symptoms of lupus vary, but some of the most common symptoms of lupus are: Pain or swelling in joints Muscle pain, Fever with no known cause, Red rashes, most often on the face, Chest pain when taking a deep breath, Hair loss, Pale or purple fingers or toes, Sensitivity to the sun, Swelling in legs or around eyes, Mouth ulcers, Swollen glands, Feeling very tired. Less common symptoms include: Anaemia (a decrease in red blood cells, Headaches, Dizzy spells, Feeling sad, Confusion, Seizures. Symptoms may come and go. The times when a person is having symptoms are called flares, which can range from mild to severe. New symptoms may appear at any time. You may need special kinds of doctors to treat the many symptoms of lupus.
“While there’s no cure for lupus, treatments can help control symptoms”.
Your health care team may include: Rheumatologists—doctors who treat arthritis and other diseases that cause swelling in the joints, Clinical immunologists—doctors who treat immune system disorders, Nephrologists—doctors who treat kidney disease, Haematologists—doctors who treat blood disorders, Dermatologists—doctors who treat skin diseases, Neurologists—doctors who treat problems with the nervous system, Cardiologists—doctors who treat heart and blood vessel problems, Endocrinologists—doctors who treat problems related to the glands and hormones, Nurses, Psychologists. The doctors develop a treatment plan to fit your needs. You and your doctor should review the plan often to be sure it is working. You should report new symptoms to your doctor right away so that treatment can be changed if needed. The goals of the treatment plan are to prevent flares, Treat flares when they occur, Reduce organ damage and other problems. Treatments may include drugs to: Reduce swelling and pain, Prevent or reduce flares, Help the immune system, Reduce or prevent damage to joints, Balance the hormones. In addition to medications for lupus itself, sometimes other medications are needed for problems related to lupus such as high cholesterol, high blood pressure, or infection.
So, know that you seemed to know what lupus is, how did it changed my life?
I’m a Mother of three children and love to cooked, love to swim, love to work, who loves outdoor and a businesswoman and lives a very active life and a very hands-on mother. But everything changed 16 years ago, when little by little for no reasons, I’ve been getting sick; I will wake up several consecutive mornings feeling so tired and getting out of bed was just too impossible. Then I will go for check ups and the doctors will find nothing wrong with me…I will have mouth ulcers all over my gums, palate and cheeks for weeks sometimes months that I needed to go to a dentist or ENT for help. I would have severe rashes when I get exposed to sunlight and my fingers and toes will get too painful and can be hardly moved. And I needed to stop cooking completely because I’d get sick and feel overly fatigue after I do all the time. I will have severe headaches that I require to be hospitalized due to acute pain and sometimes of stomach too.
My life seemed to be turning upside down and I don’t know why.
My family seemed to find it too impossible to be happening. My Ex-husband finds it difficult and can’t believe it is real. Thus, I got depressed. Because my life just turned 360 degrees and me losing what I seemed to have and nobody appears to understand and believe how really I’m feeling. And my body and I really are feeling so weak and it made me feel so alone. And I come in and out of the hospital. And my depression became a full blown clinical depression.
Then I got dengue! I got high fever, and believed it or not, my fingers and toes were so swollen and turned out to be like “jumbo hotdogs” and they were so stiffed and too painful to move and it was so impossible to bend. It was during this time that a lot of test was made and finally, a real diagnosis came out… besides dengue, I was told to have – LUPUS or Systemic Lupus Erythematosus (SLE). Everything was explained and it enlightened me up.
What I Did?
It is vital that I take an active role in my treatment. One key to living with lupus is to know about the disease and its impact. Being able to spot the warning signs of a flare which help me prevent the flare or make the symptoms less severe. Many people with lupus have certain symptoms just before a flare, such as: Feeling more tired, pain, rash, fever, stomach ache, headache, dizziness. I should see my doctor often, even when symptoms are not severe. These visits will help me and my doctor to look for changes in symptoms to predict and prevent flares. Change the treatment plan as needed, Detect side effects of treatment. Typically, there are times when the disease flares up (relapses) and symptoms become worse for a few weeks, sometimes longer. These relapses tend to alternate with times when symptoms settle down (remission). The reason why symptoms flare up or settle down is not yet fully understood.
It is also important to find ways to cope with the stress of having lupus. A good support system is a great help. A support system may include family, friends. I have my parents, brothers and sister and their family, my kids and great friends from the church and my BFF (Best Friend Forever). Not everyone can accept and understand my situation and can live with me or us for that matter. Beware of them because they will make your life more miserable and flare you up. If they don’t believe you are sick, it is hard to get better and be well.
Diagnosing lupus is difficult because signs and symptoms vary considerably from person to another. Signs and symptoms of lupus may vary over time and overlap with those of many other disorders. No one test can diagnose lupus. The combination of blood and urine tests, signs and symptoms, and physical examination findings leads to the diagnosis. It took me years.
- Treatment for lupus depends on your signs and symptoms. Determining whether your signs and symptoms should be treated and what medications to use requires a careful discussion of the benefits and risks with your doctor. As your signs and symptoms flare and subside, you and your doctor may find that you’ll need to change medications or dosages. The medications most commonly used to control lupus include:
- Non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs (NSAIDs).
- Antimalarial drugs.
These are some additional facts about lupus that you should know:
Lupus is not contagious, not even through sexual contact. You cannot “catch” lupus from someone or “give” lupus to someone.
- Lupus is not like or related to cancer. Cancer is a condition of malignant, abnormal tissues that grow rapidly and spread into surrounding tissues. Lupus is an autoimmune disease, as described above.
- Lupus is not like or related to HIV (Human Immune Deficiency Virus) or AIDS (Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome). In HIV or AIDS the immune system is underactive; in lupus, the immune system is overactive.
- Lupus can range from mild to life-threatening and should always be treated by a doctor.
Learning more about lupus is very important. Patients like me is important to be well informed and involved in our own care to have less pain make fewer visits to the doctor and feel better about ourselves and remain more active
Whenever I don’t have flares, who says I have Lupus? I have 3 kids. And who said Lupus patient cannot have kids? =)
Important Tips: Avoid Stress. No Sunlight. Avoid being exposed Extreme Heat and Extreme Cold. Don’t get infections by any means and don’t overdo yourself! In-short, no-over fatigues!!!
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